in this time when the world is literally at your fingertips and distance is basically nonexistent, why do we find distance so hard to handle?
recently, a friend's relationship ended when the guy decided that he could no longer handle the long distance, he being in the mid-west and she being on the east coast. after nearly 5 months of talking on facebook which turned into emails which turned into gchats which turned into phone calls which turned into his subsequent visit, it was over. what had been bearable up until then suddenly became not.
i was surprised by this turn of events since it seemed like everything was going really great for the both of them, and his visit had proven that they had really great chemistry. so why would he suddenly claim distance as a reason for this to not work out?
i guess it makes sense when you think of people craving human contact. i'm sure that we've all heard of those incredibly amoral studies done on orphaned babies where they proved that human touch was a key factor in sustaining the lives of those infants. those who didn't receive human touch didn't last. it's usually never enough to just talk and hear a person's voice on the phone. it also doesn't mean that you are going as far as having sex. it could be that you hate not being able to hold his hand as you walk somewhat idly down the street; touch her face and whisper in her ear that everything will be ok when you know she's upset; or even just gaze into his eyes as you lay in his arms.
and what about the potential that this long-distance thing could have turned into? is it worth to sacrifice the possibility of something really amazing in your life for the lack of touch, taste, smell, and sight? are 4 senses necessary for a relationship to last? i, myself, am not completely sure, but apparently this guy didn't think so. i wonder to myself how many others think or will think the same way.
when our own biology dictates that we need human touch, how long is it before our minds fall into the same rhythm? i'll let you know soon...
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